Girls struggling through their teenage years or even ladies in their mid-20's who still thinks like a high school girl in a chick flick ask this question constantly. They try to look their best perfecting that winged eyeliner, pulling off a perfect hair, taking interest in basketball, cars and video games but their mission is still nothing but a failed prediction. If someone ask, "What kind of qualities do you look for a person?" And typically, a woman would say, "Hmm I don't know. Someone who's sweet, smart, has a good sense of humor, owns a car and oooh shmexy!" Am I right? Or am I f*ckin' right?!
Admit it, girls who believes The Notebook or A Walk to Remember is the best movie evaaar are those girls who have unrealistic expectations about romance. And they expect all the guys to act like Edward Cullen who would watch them in their sleep, sparkle in direct sunlight and tell you "I'm a vampire". Okay, maybe not everyone wants a vampire boyfriend, but you get what I mean, right? WE DON'T LIVE IN MOVIES. You should know that by now, honey. So lie low on looking for the Ryan Gosling abs, Zac Efron eyes, Ian Somerhalder fangs and Christian Grey (oh y'know) that your heart desires.
Instead, you should look for some guy (or a man for more appropriate term) who's capable of maintaining a commitment to both of your personal growth, a man who's mature enough to stand your woes and insecurities that whenever you ask him "Do I look fat?", he would say what's true not what's right, a man who has integrity, and a man who has a potential for being your lifelong loving partner.
What I learned over the years (wow), is what we WANT is not exactly what we NEED. You want a hot boyfriend? Well, think of all the nights he would go out with his friends and you would constantly wonder how many sluts are giving him a lap dance. You want a smart guy? I bet you don't want every argument feeling so dumb that your partner has once again proved you wrong in the best possible logical way he can. You want to date someone who owns a car? Date a taxi driver, woman!
Going back to the question, "How would I get someone to like me?" It's not all about how you look, how interesting are you or how famous you are. Next time, ask yourself if when you get in to a relationship...
"Do I have something to offer in my future relationship?"
"Am I ready enough?"
"Am I the person people love to be with?"
"Or am I the person they can never stand?"
"Should I stop being too idealistic?"
Because honey, yea, you should.
Instead, you should look for some guy (or a man for more appropriate term) who's capable of maintaining a commitment to both of your personal growth, a man who's mature enough to stand your woes and insecurities that whenever you ask him "Do I look fat?", he would say what's true not what's right, a man who has integrity, and a man who has a potential for being your lifelong loving partner.
What I learned over the years (wow), is what we WANT is not exactly what we NEED. You want a hot boyfriend? Well, think of all the nights he would go out with his friends and you would constantly wonder how many sluts are giving him a lap dance. You want a smart guy? I bet you don't want every argument feeling so dumb that your partner has once again proved you wrong in the best possible logical way he can. You want to date someone who owns a car? Date a taxi driver, woman!
Going back to the question, "How would I get someone to like me?" It's not all about how you look, how interesting are you or how famous you are. Next time, ask yourself if when you get in to a relationship...
"Do I have something to offer in my future relationship?"
"Am I ready enough?"
"Am I the person people love to be with?"
"Or am I the person they can never stand?"
"Should I stop being too idealistic?"
Because honey, yea, you should.
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